Jaslyn Singh: Empathy difficult concept to learn
By Jaslyn Singh www.jaslynsingh.com March 11, 2013 4:48PM
Jaslyn Singh, LCPC, CH, CPM, P.C.
Updated: April 14, 2013 6:09AM
Being empathic seems to be tough for many. Many lose sight on how to place value on what someone else is saying or forget how to connect with someone’s pain or words. Many struggle to validate or give importance to other people’s emotions, thoughts and so forth.
When you get into an argument or even have a discussion with your loved one or a friend or co-worker, are you heard? And do you give your full attention to what is being said? Or are you only focused on what you would like to say next. Do you like having the last word? Does your spouse listen to your hurt and do you listen as well?
Do you even know how to validate? Many of us learn how to communicate by our family members growing up. It is extremely important to look at how you communicate. You cannot control the world, and it won’t help to have unhealthy thoughts like, “well he said this, so I’m going to say this, or she said that and now I’m going to set the record straight.”
If a person pulls out a gun with his words, are you going to pull out a bomb with your words? Think about it. Let’s be real here. Do you really sleep well at night after throwing out the negative energies toward a person you think you care for or love?
If you’re loved one is telling you that they are angry and hurt, then listen versus getting defensive or discounting their feelings. Try not to make another person feel bad about what they want to express to you. Ask yourself what the worst could happen if you were empathic toward somebody else’s emotions.
The world could be a better place if we took care of our own negative energies. Remember, you don’t always have to get mad just because you think you are right and because you are not heard. Empower yourself with inner peace and silence. It works!
Contact Jaslyn Singh, licensed clinical professional counselor in Naperville, at 630-913-0080 or visit www.jaslynsingh.com.