Walking on egg shells with friends, your partner or even your boss isn’t the greatest thing for your health. Many say they experience anxiety/heart palpitations when faced with those they may fear. Some may say, “every time I am face to face with my boss, my chest becomes tight and I experience a loss of words. I begin to sweat and I end up people pleasing.”
If you know what your triggers are, then do some problem-solving. Come up with a plan. And monitor your situation, feelings and behaviors. Once you have mapped out everything, you will be well-prepared when faced with a challenging person or situation.
This is called the “cognitive thought record.” It is easy to use and kind of fun to use, too! Look it up or ask your support system/therapist how to use one.
There is no need to continue people pleasing nor should anyone keep cycling in all that emotional pain. Process why you fear this person.
Process who this person may remind you of. Do you see yourself in this person? Or does this person remind you of someone from your past that may have been difficult for you.
Good luck. Remember. You don’t have to figure all of this out on your own! Call your support system. Keep the power! Keep it real!
Contact Jaslyn Singh, licensed clinical professional counselor in Naperville, at 630-913-0080 or visit www.jaslynsingh.com.