Many of my clients say being a single parent can be lonely.
But you have to remember that there is a difference between healthy lonely and unhealthy lonely.
Healthy lonely is when you are on your own, in peace, dating yourself and dating your career.
Unhealthy lonely is when you continuously fall into an abusive cycle and cannot seem to step out of it.
Once you have built a relationship with yourself, it is then important to take healthy risks.
Many of my clients report that they would like to date again but fear falling into an unhealthy cycle.
Their fears are valid but taking those risks is important.
If your thoughts are healthy, then you will know right away what works for you and what does not.
Dating does not have to lead to marriage or intercourse.
Dating can mean movies, dinners, luncheons and so forth — somebody to talk to. It’s important to process the past but not live in it.
Life goes on.
Remember you are in power; you do not have to be powerless to past situations.
Reach out to your support system, and design a fun and healthy plan for yourself.
Good luck! Feel your emotions, don’t fear them!
Contact Jaslyn Singh, licensed clinical professional counselor in Naperville, at 630-913-0080 or visit www.jaslynsingh.com.