Divorces! It is pretty common to get served divorce papers during the holiday season. The key is to get through it without too many bumps. It can be shocking, or it might have been expected.
I strongly encourage those facing this obstacle to join divorce groups close by. A simple Internet search on “divorce groups” will reveal various numbers and convenient locations.
Watch for an increase in depression and or anxiety during this time. Try to remember who you were before you were married — and how to get the old self back. It’s not OK to give away your power to a situation.
Of course, look at the situation, feel the emotions and maintain healthy behaviors as you are assessing it all. And then come up with a healthy rational plan.
Allow yourself to feel all of your emotions and keep focused and structured. Remember — I always say this — to build a relationship with yourself. During a marriage, you may be a “we,” and then during and after the divorce, it is important to learn how to become an “I.” Learn to love yourself in ways that you never did before.
If you’ve forgotten how to connect with yourself and if you are cycling with the thought of “how am I going to get through a divorce and live on my own,” then call a therapist. You’re always welcome to call me for any information you may need, too.
You are not in this alone.
Good luck, love yourself and gain inner peace.
Contact Jaslyn Singh, licensed clinical professional counselor in Naperville, at 630-913-0080 or visit www.jaslynsingh.com.